One of the most difficult things for parents to do is to ensure that their children have a positive environment in which to grow. When the parents are divorced, this can become even more challenging. Not only do you have your own home to think about, you also have to consider how your kids are handling your ex’s house.
There are many ways that you can boost your child’s stability. One of the primary focal points must be that your child feels at home in both houses. Even though it might seem odd to think that setting rules would help, it will because it creates important expectations. They know what is allowed and what isn’t. If you and your ex can work as a team, consider working out major rules, such as bedtime, that span both homes.
Listen to their concerns
Children sometimes feel as though what they think and feel isn’t important to the adults in their lives. Listen to what they have to say. Focus on the message behind the words so you know what you need to do to help them adjust to the situation. You should also make sure that your child has trusted adults they can talk to just in case they don’t feel comfortable talking to you or your ex about certain things.
Live in the present
It is all too easy to let the past dictate how you handle situations. When you have gone through a divorce, you can’t let what happened during the marriage impact the decisions you make now. Leave what happened between you and your ex behind and think about how things can affect your children. Even the worst spouse can be a good parent as long as they are willing to do whatever the kids need.
Follow the custody agreement
Your custody agreement tells you what you need to do about your children. This includes the parenting time schedule, so be sure that you review the terms periodically. Of course, there are times when things happen. Try to be flexible when necessary since this sets a good example for your children and shows that you are putting their interests first.
It is usually a better option to work out differences with your ex. However, you might not be able to do this all the time. There is the option of going to court to have the agreement modified to reflect your children’s current needs.