Once you and your ex go through a divorce, you can only be fully done with them if you don't have children together. If you do have kids, you will now embark on having to work as a parenting team. This may not be easy. Fortunately, there are ways that you can boost the likelihood of making it through the upcoming years without too many conflicts.
One of the most important things that you need to do now is to ensure that you have respectful communication. This may be challenging especially if you have to deal with contentious matters. However, your outlook can make a big difference.
Focus on the children
The children must be your primary focus. This isn't always easy when things go wrong because you might be tempted to blame your ex. Instead of falling into that temptation, think about what you can do to improve things. Find ways that you can help your children to cope and think about how you and your ex can work together to prevent similar future issues.
Take time to gather your thoughts
When things go south, such as when your ex irritates you, it is easy to speak out with frustration. Practice being quiet until you've had time to gather your thoughts. Think about the most productive way to address the problem and use it. Remaining silent in the heat of an argument isn't a sign of weakness. It is a sign of maturity that your children can learn from.
Treat communication like a business
Keeping your tone and words businesslike can be highly beneficial. When you do this, you aren't leaving anything up to chance. Your ex can't misconstrue the respectful tone, and you won't seem like you are trying to be pushy. Just make sure that you aren't doing this in a sarcastic manner because there is a chance that this would be evident through your tone of voice.
No matter what kind of parenting relationship you have with your ex, a solid parenting plan should be the foundation. This is a place for you to outline specific instructions. Include methods of resolving disagreements and for handling things that need to be changed. For example, outline how vacations will be scheduled and any limitations. The more information you have in the parenting plan, the less chance that something will come up in the future that won't be covered.